As much as we think we are prepared, we learn most of fatherhood through “on-the-job” training. I’ll admit that when Marilyn and I found out she was pregnant with Alicia, I was Scared, with a capital “S”!
How was I ever going to live up to the expectations of my child? I didn’t even know her yet, but I knew she’d expect a lot from me growing up. You know what? She did. Both of my daughters expected a lot from me. Not material expectations, but love. I hope I’ve been able to live up to their expectations.
That leads me to something I’ve been thinking about all day—today’s Feast (a Solemnity) of Saint Joseph. I know the feeling of helplessness and wonder about how to raise a child. And while my children are gifts from God that I am charged with teaching life’s lessons, I can’t imagine what it must have felt like to know that the child I was raising IS God! I’m sure Joseph knew. I believe God gives fathers (and of course mothers-even more so!) the grace to instinctively know their children’s strengths and weaknesses and how to teach them to reach their full potential. What a daunting task for Joseph! What could he possibly teach Jesus?
The answer is—everything Jesus needed to learn in His human Nature. He humbled Himself to be born as a helpless baby, in a stall, surrounded by animals and the “poorest of the poor”, the few shepherds that were present. And, like any other human child, He needed His mother’s milk, and His step-father’s protection and guidance growing up.
So Joseph, with Mary’s help and support (like all good marriages) taught his “son” how to walk, how to talk, how to be a carpenter, and probably how to read! I picture Jesus on Joseph’s knee, listening to His “father” tell the family history, praising God through prayer, and maybe even hearing some bedtime stories.
It’s nice to know that as a father, I share a special bond with Joseph, my dad and my brothers, and that I have examples I can draw from when I feel overwhelmed in my role.
And as a bonus, today's Solemnity is just like a Sunday! So I can go off of my Lenten fast for today! Man, I've had a taste for hot wings like you wouldn't believe since Lent began!
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