When he was at table with them, he took the bread. He blessed the bread, and broke it, and gave it to them. And their eyes were opened and they recognized him!(Luke 24:13-35)

Wednesday, March 1, 2023

Your will, Lord, not mine

 

Jesus said to his disciples:  "Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you.  For everyone who asks, receives; and the one who seeks, finds; and to the one who knocks, the door will be opened.” [Matthew 7:7-12]

In 1980, I started working for (now defunct) Thrifty Drug Stores.  My first position (Manager Trainee) with them had me working in a town 45 minutes away, which wasn’t too bad.  But when I found out that a guy in the same position I was in had lost his job and created an opening in a store 10 minutes from my house, I put in for a transfer.  The Assistant Vice President said, “We don’t transfer Trainees, as a general rule.”  I was bummed, but I prayed for a change of policy so I could transfer and be closer to my wife and newborn daughter.  A few days later, the AVP called and said he was going to transfer me, after all! 

A couple of years later, after hard work and dedication to the company, I was promoted to Store Manager.  I was really happy.  But one of the drawbacks to that position was that they liked to move the managers around to prevent them from getting ‘stale’, so in May 1992 I was moved to the position of Vacation Relief Manager for an area that required me to drive 2 hours to work, complete a nine-hour shift, then drive 2 hours home every day, six days a week.  I wasn’t ready to deal with the long hours of absence from my young family (we had two daughters by then).  It also put a real strain on my ability to attend Mass most Sundays and left me precious little time to visit my mother as often as I should have (and wanted to).  I prayed to God and asked that, if possible, I’d like to have a position that would allow me to dedicate much more time to Him, to my family, and to my mom.  That was in February 1993.

Two weeks after starting this prayer, I was informed that my position was being eliminated and my services would no longer be required.  I was devastated!  I cried as I drove home to break the news to my wife, wondering how we were going to continue to provide for our family.  Surprisingly, my wife actually seemed relieved that I wouldn’t be under so much pressure anymore, and she was confident I would find other employment soon enough.

The very next day in the newspaper want ads was a position for a part-time job at U-Haul with health benefits.  I had a big plan to get the part-time job and go back to school for a couple of years to become a pharmacist.  I made an appointment for an interview at the local U-Haul that same afternoon.  By the end of the day, I had been offered a full-time position with benefits as a Manager Trainee.  At the start of the following week, I began my 25-year career with U-Haul with the promise of Sundays off so I could attend Mass with my family, at a location that was directly across the street from my mother’s apartment!   My advancement within that company would eventually require me to spend a lot of time away from the family once again, but it also continued to allow me to spend time in worship and more time with my mother than Thrifty had allowed.  I thank God every day for His compassion towards me and His answers to my prayers.

When you pray with deep faith, will our Lord give you whatever you ask?  Certainly not.  Jesus did say, “Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you.”   But this statement must be carefully read within the whole context of Jesus’ teaching here.  The fact of the matter is that when we sincerely ask in faith for “good things,” meaning that which our good God wants to bestow upon us, He won’t disappoint.  Of course, this doesn’t mean that if we beg Jesus for anything whatsoever that He will give it to us.

What are those “good things” that our Lord will most certainly give to us?  First and foremost, it’s the forgiveness of our sins.  We can be absolutely certain that if we humble ourselves before our good God, especially within the Sacrament of Reconciliation, we will be granted the freely given and transforming gift of forgiveness.

In addition to the forgiveness of our sins, there are many other things we need in life, and there are many other things that our good God wants to bestow upon us.  For example, God will always want to give to us the strength we need to overcome temptations in life.  He will always want to provide for our most basic needs.  He will always want to help us grow in every virtue.  And He most certainly wants to bring us to Heaven.  It’s these things that we must especially pray for every day.

But what about other things, such as a new job, more money, a better house, acceptance into a certain school, a physical healing, etc.?  Our prayers for these and other similar things in life should be prayed for but with a caveat.  The “caveat” is that we pray that God’s will be done.  Not ours.  We must humbly acknowledge that we don’t see the big picture in life and don’t always know what will give God the greatest glory in all things.  Therefore, it may be better that you not get that new job, or be accepted at this school, or even that this illness not end in healing.  But we can be certain that God always will bestow upon us that which is best for us and that which enables us to give God the greatest glory in life.  The crucifixion of our Lord is a perfect example.  He prayed that that cup be taken from Him, “but not my will but Yours be done.” [Luke 22:42]  And, of course, the Father saw the great eternal value in the death of His Son on the Cross and answered that prayer of His accordingly.

How do you pray?  Do you pray with detachment from the outcome, knowing that our Lord knows best?  Do you humbly admit that only God knows what is truly good for you?  Trust this to be the case and pray with complete confidence that God’s will be done in all things, and you can be certain that He will answer that prayer.

Dear Lord of infinite wisdom and knowledge, help me to always place my trust in Your goodness and care for me. Help me to daily turn to You in my need and to trust that You will answer my prayer according to Your perfect will. I place my life into Your hands, dear Lord. Do with me as you wish. Jesus, I trust in You.

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